Budget

The cost of getting what one wants.

I would like to pretend that this is some intricate soul searching endeavor. It’s not. Breaking down what is required by each individual to achieve what one wants requires some conscious thought, possible some deliberate note taking but determining the cost is simple…that does not imply that it’s execution is EASY.

For example, I have a client who says she wants to lose 20 lbs. She exercises religiously, but overeats every day and drinks three glasses of wine in addition to large fatty portions for meals. The cost is simple- eat healthier meals that are more balanced. But is she ready to not eat all the yummy, gooey whatevers and cut back on the nightly alcohol intake? Hmmm. So, many other “expenses” may give her pause to this “additional expense”.

“Work is so demanding I cannot think about having dinner until after 10 p.m. And then I usually get what’s easiest”. EASY? As one very wise person once pointed out to me: it takes just as much energy to grab an apple as it does to grab a cookie, doughnut, potato chips, etc. The real cost is the mental perception required to choose and enjoy delicious body honoring food.

I have my own example: For years, I’ve foregone exercise making my business and my family my priority. To take one more hour away from my kids and husband after not seeing them for 10 or 11 hours has no appeal. And that one more hour is how I see exercise (and rest assured, I am a former gym rat.) What is required on my part is conscious, creative ways to put exercise into my day; and to be willing to stay committed to each additional activity. Simple. EASY is up to me.

So for this week, if it is of interest to you, spend time meditating or simply thinking, what it is that you want or even need.

NEXT WEEK WE WILL LOOK AT THE STEPS TO FIGURE OUT WHAT THE TRUE COST IS AND WHAT YOUR BUDGET IS.

Everything comes with a price

Everything in this life comes with a price. Simply. The price is rarely as significant monetarily as it is energetically. SO, this is where we each need to begin, as we weigh the decisions of our lives. What price must I spend in order to achieve or gain what it is I say I want?

One person states clearly, I want to lose twenty pounds. Okay. Truly? Are you prepared? Are you prepared to stop consuming the amount or types of foods that got you to where you are today? Are you prepared to move your body more than you already do? Even possibly embark on some sort of regular exercise activity? Are you prepared to politely say "No, thank you.” Without a lot of drama or explanation when offered foods/desserts that will not support you in achieving your goal? Really? Because what I find mostly is people who say they WANT to lose weight, but they truly are not interested in taking the action that will bring the desired result.

Now the above is a simple example.

But let’s use it as a guideline. Are we willing to be the compassionate listener that our partner currently requires in order for us to keep, or even GET a relationship?

Are we willing to give up our weekly nail appointment to be a more attentive mother?

None of these questions are meant as judgments, simply as examples. There are prices to pay in this life.

It is time as individuals we look squarely at what we say we want and be willing to line up ALL the costs to ourselves and possibly our loved ones, so that we can clearly determine whether or not these are prices we are willing to pay.

NEXT: WHAT IF WE ARE NOT WILLING TO PAY THE PRICE AKA KNOW YOUR BUDGET

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